“It’s Just Coffee”… Is what I said 2 years ago today (February 4th) to my 4 girls. I had only known Lyle for a short time. He asked me how I was doing. I explained that I had a pretty low day because it was my wedding anniversary. He wanted to meet me for coffee at Starbucks, so I wouldn’t be alone on my anniversary. Since I don’t drink coffee, I had to quickly ask Alyssa to text me something for Lyle to order me. Haha!
What you don’t know is I had NO intentions of dating Lyle. “It was just coffee.” All I wanted was to encourage him if I could. I knew we could relate to each other. He brought his cry towel, and I had mine. And, I thought I would be back home in an hour. WRONG!!
He talked about Brenda and we cried… I talked about Bryan and we cried… IT WAS THE BEST DAY EVER!! We closed down Starbucks and were still sitting outside a few hours later. Since I wasn’t prepared to stay long at Starbucks, I wore black pants with flip flops and a long sleeve shirt. It was around 45 degrees; needless to say, I could barely talk or walk after we left. I was literally frozen. LOL
I had always tried pleasing others when I was dating.. If they wanted short hair, I was considering short hair, if they wanted someone skinnier or taller or if they wanted blonde, well I knew I couldn’t do blonde.. I was always trying to be someone else, except being me. God opened my eyes to see that He created me just the way He wanted me. That really freed me.. It sure feels great to be free to be myself. You can too, you know?!
As Lyle and I kept talking, I quickly realized that he liked me for me, and not for what he wanted me to be. And, he wasn’t trying to see what he could get from me, but what he could give to me. WOW! He served me and continues to serve me. He spoils me, and I let him. J
Before we were married, I texted Lyle different things about him: you are a worshiper, you are a man of prayer and God’s Word, you are patient, you are very kind, you have such peace about you, you love your 4 girls and they love you, you are trustworthy, you are a giver and not a taker, and you are faithful and were faithful to Brenda after 33 years of marriage.. A few minutes later God told me to go back and read all that I had just texted Lyle… So, I did, and guess what?? They were all The Fruits of The Spirit and God said, “THIS IS THE MAN YOU WANT TO MARRY!
Now please listen closely, I am not saying that the love that Bryan and I had wasn’t real or good. Believe me, it was the best, and I loved him with all my heart. We had an incredible love for each other and have 4 beautiful girls to prove it. He was my first true love and always will be! He loved me through being 8 hours away at college while we continued dating until we got married…he showed his faithfulness to God and to me. He loved me even when I didn’t feel like being loving.. He loved me when I was scared that he would die. He even loved me through his stomach cancer. Words can’t describe the love we had & the love in my heart for him. I love and miss him dearly everyday!
You see, man tries to put love into categories and God doesn’t… God spoke to me very clearly and said the love that you and Lyle will share will be like none other, so don’t even try to put it in a box because I am God and I have numerous ways of love displayed through my people. God’s love is un-describable at times and un-imaginable.
What happens is it gets distorted in movies, music, and with man. I was scared and nervous all at the same time. I had peace in my heart because I was beginning to understand a new facet of God’s love through Lyle. It reached higher than any mountain and lower than any valley. It stretched farther than the east is from the west. A new flooding of love was starting to invade deep in my heart.
I immediately thought of the scripture in Ephesians 3:17-19 MSG, “…both feet planted firmly on love, you’ll be able to take in with all followers of Jesus the extravagant dimensions of Christ’s love. Reach out and experience the breadth! Test its length! Plumb the depths! Rise to the heights! Live full lives, full in the fullness of God.”
I was ready for this new full life of love with Lyle Mason. I knew I wouldn’t be afraid anymore of this different type of love. I was grateful for the kind of love Bryan and I shared and now I am in awe of God because of what Lyle and I have. ISN’T GOD AMAZING?! God truly makes ALL things New!
Lyle is my best friend and my lover. He is my helpmate. We have come through the valley of the shadow of death and can live, laugh, and love again. I’m so glad God gave me a man after His own heart, and one who knows how to cradle mine. He is more than I could have ever imagined for just going to get coffee.
So, whether you are single or married, know that God is Love! God can bring you a man or turn your man into someone who will love you like I have experienced and still experience everyday. God is into the re-kindling business of love! I believe the love has to start with you first! God can and will write your love story just like He has mine! I’m so glad I said, Yes to, “It’s just coffee!” Never under estimate what God can do!
“May you be rooted deep in love and founded securely on love.. may you experience that love, what is the breadth and length and height and depth of it…may really come to know experience for yourselves the love of Christ, which far surpasses mere knowledge…that you may be filled through all your being unto all the fullness of God; may you have the richest measure of the divine Presence, and become a body wholly filled and flooded with God Himself!”
Eph. 3:17-19 AMP.