Have you ever buried your child, father, aunt, or husband? And, no, I’m not talking about burying them when you are at the beach & covering them in sand. It’s not the happiest topic to talk about. It’s flat out depressing, but the fact of the matter is, it’s a part of life. I pray this helps you in being an encouragement to others who have gone through the hardest thing in life, loosing someone they love.
With all the emotions in loosing someone, I can’t imagine having to bury my child. I know the shock of loosing a spouse and so does Lyle. Let me see if I can briefly put it into words. Not only are you in such a whirlwind of emotions, you feel as if it’s a dream or nightmare, and you are just going through the motions of life.
Picking a funeral home and even walking into the funeral home was devastating. Choosing a casket was the most heartbreaking thing I have ever done. Next came the visitation, I thought I would collapse; amazingly, God’s grace helped me through it. Seeing Bryan in the casket, whew! There are no words.
Preparing for the funeral and during the funeral was nice if you call it that, having everyone around catering to your every want or need during such a hard time in your life.
The reality of Bryan’s death didn’t come for me until around 6-12 months. I guess I was so pre-occupied with my 4 girls. Then, all the medical bills started coming in the mail. Decisions had to be made. If you have children, they want to know that you are going to make it. They are looking completely to you for security. It can get pretty over whelming.
Then there is the wonderful word called finances. I wish money grew on trees. Do you know how much it costs to bury someone? I never knew how much it costs until I had to bury Bryan. And, YES, the funeral homes get paid up front. Don’t pass out when I tell you… over 20K for Bryan!
Please show & be the love of Christ and check on your friends over the months & years after they loose a loved one. Don’t assume because they go to your church or are involved in ministry that others are calling & checking on them. You would be amazed how many people still call or text after the funeral is over.
So… With all I’ve said, The Reality of Death STINKS!